Life Shares a Lesson in Impermanence

This is so challenging for me to write this out.

I just received a phone call from my older sister telling me about my (ex)brother-in-law passing away yesterday.  He was only 40 years old ... but his lifestyle choices shortened his life. 

This hurts deeply because Charles was someone that I knew back in highschool ... he and my sister met, dated and married then... he was a very large part of my life during that time.  I spent a great deal of time living with them during different periods ... and he was always warm and welcoming to have a space for family.  "Family takes care of it's own" seemed to be a strong/powerful thread in the energetic make-up of his family. 

He had the most awesome sense of humor... he was very intelligent... and was very athletic in high-school ... such a promising life.  He joined the Air Force and became a weather-observer, meteorologist... which I had the pleasure of going to observe him doing at the air force base... I saw the integrity of his work in practice.  He was extremely dedicated.

He was also a very fun, party-driven kind of person... celebration of life. 

I'm not sure where the shifts occurred ... where he and my sister grew apart, where the energy shifted in his life and his hurt became a wound he repressed.

I just saw him in June of this year... at his daughter's (my niece's) high school graduation.  It's just so hard to know that just months ago he was here with us... physically present.  He looked well-enough at that time... it's amazing what goes on *inside* the body when we don't deal with Life lessons... what we let "eat away" at us... what we kill with chemicals and what-not. 

This is a powerful lesson for me - yet again - that this physical world is Impermanent.  What it means and what decisions/choices we make that make it manifest so much more quickly.

My heart goes out to his children: James, Charity & Luke... and to his current wife, Ruth.  All my loving energy is focused on their family right now, because like I noted earlier... this is an incredibly CLOSE family.  They take you in... they care for you... I can relate to all of them at this time and reflect upon my own experiences with him. 

Please send a prayer out to the North family at this time... though you may not know them... I am certain you'd all love them as much as I do.  They are good people.  And this loss has got to be devistating for them.


My own prayer:  Love hold these people in your arms; comfort them, be with them so they can process this life change; empower them to live their lives to the fullest in honor of and in rememberance of the dear loved one that has moved onto the next realm from them.  Blessed Be.